Travis and I are going through the Empowered to Connect Train the Trainer course with the goal of hosting classes for families that are going through the process of adoption or becoming foster parents. The classes are designed to prepare families for some of the unique challenges of parenting children from hard places when traditional parenting skills fail or aren’t as effective.
Our challenge this week was to take one day and say “Yes” to our children.
I’ve determined that is the hardest word to say. I realized that I end up saying no frequently throughout the day and often when I don’t need to. The response from the kids of getting told yes when they usually hear no was disbelief. Jazz actually questioned if I was really saying yes or if she misheard me.
My concern for this day was that my day would get so side tracked with all the yes that I would be stressed about the things that I needed to do that didn’t get done. Well, it didn’t. There wasn’t anything unreasonable and I was able to connect with each child personally in a way that they needed.
Saying yes is a challenge that I would issue to every parent. When your child asks you for something or to do something and the first word you want to say is no, to stop and ask yourself why and if you have to say no. Then, if it is possible, to say yes and see what changes happen in your relationship with your child.